18 Ways to Make Yourself a Priority In Midlife – It’s Not Selfish!

Prioritize Yourself in Midlife

How long have you been telling yourself that it’s time to prioritize you? Your health? Happiness? How about your mental stability? How often do excuses, or reasons, side track you? You have too much to do. So-and-so needs your help. Your job eats up too much time. You’re too damn tired!! Or you think it’s selfish to put yourself first. It’s not selfish to make yourself a priority in midlife, or at any age!

Make yourself a priority in midlife

Is it selfish to prioritize yourself?

There are many reasons to prioritize you! To begin with, you deserve it. As women, we often think that it’s selfish to put ourselves first. But that couldn’t be further from the truth. Would you ever turn to your husband, brother, male friend, or son and tell them that they’re selfish for exercising, eating well, talking a vacation, or learning something new?

You probably wouldn’t.

Yet many of us feel selfish when we think about doing these things for ourselves. There are lots of reasons why we feel this way from our upbringing to warped social norms. Don’t waste your time worrying about the “why”. Just do it. Prioritize you – NOW!!

It’s good for you and it’s good for those you love and care for. They want you to be around, and happy, for many years to come. In fact, you could say it’s selfish NOT to prioritize yourself. By doing so, you are depriving your loved ones of your joy, love, and the sharing of your best self. You’re short changing them in the long run.

How can I make myself a priority?

Making yourself a priority in midlife, or at any age, is multifaceted. It’s not only about fitness & health or emotional well being. It’s also about your social life, career, state of mind, and financial stability. And, of course, don’t forget about relationships and personal growth. I truly believe that ongoing personal growth is the most important key to long term happiness. It’s about starting fresh when given a chance and forgiving yourself when needed.

18 ways to make yourself a priority in midlife

Make yourself a priority

I’ve gathered 18 wonderful articles to help you make yourself a priority. Each is written by a female writer. They cover topics about starting fresh, planning for a new year, loving yourself, fashion, self care, fitness & health, mindfulness and mastering menopause. Read them all or skim through and select what resonates with you.


Ditch the New Year’s Resolutions

Millions of people make New Year’s resolutions annually. 80% are abandoned by February. Instead of continually trying a failed approach, try something new.

These articles give two great alternatives to the traditional new year’s resolution – a word of intention for the year ahead and a proactive approach to habit forming. Both of these methods are framed using a more positive approach than “resolutions” (which even sounds punitive!!) and promise a new way to start a successful journey through the year ahead.

Set a Word of Intention for 2021 Rather Than a Resolution

From Deb at MaamCave.com

A word of intention is a hope for your life. Dictionary.com defines an intention as “a thing intended; an aim or plan”. Compare this to a resolution. It’s softer, more flexible, kinder. It’s also more universal. A resolution applies to a specific and singular goal – I resolve to lose 20 lbs. in 2021. An intention, on the other hand, applies to a lifestyle choice – I intend to be authentic, or a dreamer, or I intend to be present. These, and many other words of intention capture a vision for your life rather than a concrete goal. (READ MORE)

Why Habit Tracking is Better than a New Year’s Resolution

From Katy at MidlifeRambler.com

A Habit Tracker can help you form new habits by helping you track how well you are staying with those new habits. Your tracker could be paper, part of a planner such as a bullet journal, a stand-alone piece of paper, or even an app. I pick a habit I’d like to add to my life rather than making a resolution because a habit is a concrete, measurable action. (Drink 64 ounces of water each day, for example.) Resolutions are often too broad, too ambitious, and let’s face it, too easily broken. (READ MORE)

Make Yourself a Priority with Ease, Grace, and Grit

From Janae at JanaeFletcher.com

Let’s forget about resolutions, goals and more. January seems so much easier to me, since I started to think about it with ease, grace, grit and how we consume our life. (READ MORE)

Make a Fresh Start in 2021!

Whether your believe in New Year’s resolutions or not, I hope you can accept that the new year is a natural mark in time. An opportunity to wipe the slate clean and start fresh! Sometimes we start fresh because we want to plot a new path for ourselves, sometimes it’s out of necessity. Regardless of the impetus, transformation is in the air. Use the natural mark of the new year to make yourself a priority.

Put Yourself First Without Guilt

From Deb at MaamCave.com

Learning to put yourself first without guilt will lead to a happier, healthier, life. It’s as simple as that. How many things do you do each week, on a regular basis, that are just for you?

One? Two?

I bet I lost most of you by now. It’s time to change that.. (READ MORE)

So You’ve Hit Your Limit With Life Right Now and You Need a Reset To Get Back in The Game

From Missy at MidlifeMargaritas.com

Are you stuck right now? Not even sure how you feel anymore? Maybe a case of the blues? (and I don’t mean B.B. King) What are you going to do? How are you going to get back into a positive mindset? Cocktails can get you only so far. So what to do?. (READ MORE)

Be a Fashionista – Midlife Doesn’t Have to be Frumpy!

Fashion can be fun. For many of us, fashion is a task that we work at rather than enjoy. We had to dress right for work, for occasions, even for everyday life. It’s a heavy lift, a chore, because we didn’t learn the basics. What if I told you fashion could be fun? You can use it to show some personality, be who you are and radiate your inner self to the world!

9 Ways to Increase Your Fashion Confidence in Midlife

From Lauren at Afternesting.com

Do you ever look at another woman’s outfit and think, “Wow! I love what she’s wearing!  How does she always manage to pull together the right outfit for every occasion?!?” . (READ MORE)

Love Thyself as Much as You Love Others

Focusing on yourself is a learned skill. You don’t wake up one day and decide that you’re going to completely change your mindset and suddenly prioritize number one. There’s guilt to work through, thought processes to modify. These things take time and a deliberate effort. The results are worth it!

Making yourself a priority means loving yourself – as you are – with all your weirdness, strengths and challenges. It means being deliberate about self care and finding a place for you in your own life. You can learn to do this with grace and invite those you love to join you in your self support.

How to Create a Self Care Plan for Life

From Sue at WomenLivingWellAfter50.com.au

Self-care promotion is everywhere at the moment and we have all read the importance of taking time out for ourselves.  We usually start with good intentions but soon life takes over and looking after ourselves takes a back seat. So how do we keep the momentum going and create a self-care plan not just for a month but for life?. (READ MORE)

Why You Should Celebrate and Nurture Your Weirdness

From Katy at MidlifeRambler.com

Meanwhile, I grew into a woman who cared all too much about what other people think. I was the classic people pleaser because I spent years nurturing the part of me that cared too much about what people think instead of nurturing the true part of me, the weird and fun part. (READ MORE)

Personally, this is one of my favorite pieces in this round up. I have spent too many years being wound too tight. It’s time to embrace my weirdness!!

Take Care of Your Health in Midlife

No article about ways to make yourself a priority in midlife would be complete without mentioning fitness and health. If you are already taking care of these areas of your life, Great!! Otherwise, it’s time. You cannot continue to push off your health goals. Once you hit midlife, it becomes increasingly difficult to lose weight, get in shape, and stay fit. Start now. You don’t have to spend hours in the gym multiple times per week to see benefits. But you do have to start moving, eat right, lose those extra pounds and build muscle to support you through the second half of life.

21 Tips to Lose Weight in Midlife

From Deb at MaamCave.com

A friend told me that dogs fall into two categories when it comes to food, they either “eat to live” or “live to eat”. I think the same applies to human beings. I definitely fall into the “live to eat” category. Because of this, I can’t diet. Lately I can’t even get motivated to try, despite being at my highest weight ever. I was feeling discouraged then I suddenly remembered a list I made years ago of 21 tips to lose weight. I dug it out and realized, I can use this in midlife! (READ MORE)

Reasons Why Women Should Lift Weights and Increase Muscle Mass

From Aimee at AimeePearcept.co.uk

There is absolutely no age limit when it comes to fitness training and especially not with strength training and lifting weights. Our muscle mass starts to decline rapidly after the age of 45, with major reductions again occurring at age 65 and 80.  We need muscle to allow our body to move and function effectively that’s why its so important that we start to build up the amount of muscle we have in our body when we are able to do so. (READ MORE)

How to Stay Motivated to Work Out Regularly

From Aimee at AimeePearcept.co.uk

Something I hear a lot is just how much people struggle with motivation, how to stay motivated when you’re on the right track, and how to re-motivate yourself when you have fallen off that wagon. (READ MORE)

Mastering Menopause

Menopause is a fact of life. A less than pleasant fact of life. While some women breeze through menopause, others struggle for months or years on end. Menopause supports and information are limited and can be difficult to access. It’s time we put this topic out for public discussion and awareness.

Life Can be Brilliant Beyond Menopause!

From Ann at PositivePause.co.uk

Why are women ashamed that menopause will ever come knocking at their door? It’s guaranteed, for some perhaps sooner than anticipated, but for a vast majority that’s not the case. It’s too often reflected in the media as a negative transition. Where are the positive messages surrounding this inevitable phase of women ageing? (READ MORE)

Six Simple Steps for a Positive Menopause

From Ann at PositivePause.co.uk

Menopause transition? Some of us sail through it, whilst for others the experience ranges from being mildly tricky to totally debilitating. The good news is that quality support and information can help women to have a better experience of menopause. (Read More)

Make 2021 a Year for Personal Growth

Personal growth comes in many forms but they all have one thing in common. Growth starts from within. It requires a connection to ones self, not an easy thing to do in this high speed, always on, just-can’t-catch-a-break world. But the fact is, the only way to make yourself a priority is to connect, and love, who you are now and who you want to become.

Mastering Self-Differentiation – The Struggle is Real!

From Leanne at CrestingTheHill.com.au

I’ve thought a lot about why I get caught in the people pleasing trap and I’ve even blogged about it a couple of times. I think some of it stems from my childhood (sorry Mum – I know you’re reading this – and I’m certainly not blaming anyone), but it was a generational thing and I’m an oldest child who always took too much responsibility for everything and didn’t want to rock the boat.  (READ MORE)

Embrace Who You Are

From Leanne at CrestingTheHill.com.au

“Embracing your true self radiates a natural beauty that cannot be diluted or ignored. Confident, powerful, untamable, badass you!” – Steve Maraboli (READ MORE)

Mindfulness matters

Mindfulness is booming!! Everywhere you look these days you see articles, postings, and quotes about mindfulness. There is a reason for that.

Mindfulness matters!

Mindfulness, or being present in the moment, is a practice with a multitude of physical, mental and emotional benefits including lower blood pressure, reduce stress levels, a clearer thought process, a better workout, and increased physical well being. While mindfulness can include meditation, yoga, and other healing arts, there are also mindfulness practices that are much more simple.

Happy New Years. Moving into 2020 with Mindfulness (I know this is about moving into 2020 but it’s still relevant today)

Originally From Judy at ABoomersLifeAfter50.com

Like yoga and meditation, self-care and self-compassion are a practice. It has required me to go deep, look at my daily habits and make changes. It hasn’t been easy — especially when these habits have been programmed into my soul for the past 60 years. Okay, maybe not 60 years, let’s say past 50 years! (READ MORE)

How to Shift Perspective. 5 Simple Ways

From Marlene at Cheers2Chapter2.com

Learning how to shift your perspective, your view of the situation, how you see your life, your challenges, and your options is a choice.

When you choose to shift how you see things you open yourself up to endless opportunities to find joy, happiness and to take positive actions. (READ MORE)

Present in the Moment

From Helen at AgelessPossibilities.org

Do you sometimes let go of your noisy mind and sit in stillness? Or maybe, during a simple chore like ironing, you allow your head to empty of all thoughts and you just focus on the task at hand? Would you be surprised to know that at that moment you were practicing mindfulness?

Mindfulness, a Buddhist teaching hijacked by capitalism, has become a multi-million dollar industry. But that doesn’t mean you should dismiss the practice; mindfulness still provides health benefits for women at our life stage. (READ MORE)

Make Yourself a Priority in 2021… It’s not selfish!

Think about small steps you can take to prioritize yourself this year. Every great journey starts with a single step. It’s easier to unlearn many years of behavior by tackling concrete objectives in small bites. By focusing on concrete changes, you will begin to see progress and gain confidence. These small wins will pave the way for your longer journey.

It doesn’t matter how you start, just that you begin.

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